the 2014 trivial drivel thread

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User, you said your husband had checked out years ago (but is back now).

How do you know for sure that he's back?

He checked out by not wanting to be bothered if he was playing PlayStation, for example. My daughter and I could literally be at each other's throats and if I called him for a little assistance he either didn't respond OR he was pissed off about being inconvenienced. He wanted a 50's, perfect family. He arrives home from work, all the kids are sweet and behaved, his wife greets him with a huge smile and dinner...all that shit. The reality of twins (and especially one with issues) was more than he could handle. He also checked out by participating in his hobbies (karate, before that rugby) 4 or so evenings per week as well as on the weekends. He just wasn't there. Even if he was there he wasn't here. *scratches head*

Anywhoooo, he's way more involved now. He had to get involved when my daughter really took a turn for the worse. I was in the process of a nervous breakdown myself so he was forced to step up.

But of course now I carry all the blame in the family because I was largely a single parent during all this crap! That's what he needs to come clean about. His own selfishness and his neglect. I've already acknowledged my numerous faults--in front of my daughter, her therapists and anyone else I thought needed to know if it would help her. And he just sits there quietly. I think he honestly believes he is/was a perfect parent or something.

I don't know but I'm sick of it.



Time to get in shape for dating.