10-27-2015, 03:09 PM
I was the kid who caught ten times the punishment of my brothers and sister, mainly because I got unto ten times as much mischief and mom didn't deal well. I took a lot of heat meant for my father, who was and is a world class scumbag. Daily belt whippings, almost. Then pop with his psychological headgames, I became an adult who cannot rely on my own sense of what may be "appropriate punishment". I don't dare. So I stick with the education and training I've gotten over the years in college and my career in non-business behavior techniques. Most of the time it works amazingly well, but the real benefit is that I rarely get angry when discipline is necessary, there are no reactive or over-reactive moments.
Thank god I am oblivious to the opinions of others while caught in the blinding splendor of my own cleverness.