05-26-2025, 07:53 PM
Can I just fucking say (why yes, I can) I am goddamn sick of my siblings and two months into being a CO-TTEE with my brother for my mom’s trust, I want to strangle all of them? My sister is absconding with shit (including the garage remote control for my mom’s vacation house) AND prematurely wanting $100k to help her son buy a house (we’re in the 120 day contestment period for the trust; nobody should be asking for money until at least late August). Meanwhile my brother has promised my mom’s car to his stepson and plans to change title on it in the next few days (he tells me Bluebook value is around $2k which I think is a gross underestimate).
The fuck? Gawt dammit I’m not exactly a rule follower all the time but I think 25 years of watching my husband manage other people’s money has made me a little crazy about following rules where finances are involved.
As I said, my sister wants $100k sooner (vs later) and my brother said “well we should take $100k at the same time”. I was like…no, thank you. The only other beneficiaries are my deceased brother’s kids at $100k each (flat amount) and I’m NOT going to self deal me any money until they get their share. Fuck that.
We finally (kinda worked out) that my brother’s kids will get some equal percentage wise distribution of their inheritance simultaneously to my sister getting her dumb $100k (so there’s no preferential treatment of beneficiaries) but this isn’t rocket science. And I STILL don’t want any part of a distribution until later (the money is invested and we’d have to liquidate investments to accommodate everything we’re facing).
Trauma dump.
The fuck? Gawt dammit I’m not exactly a rule follower all the time but I think 25 years of watching my husband manage other people’s money has made me a little crazy about following rules where finances are involved.
As I said, my sister wants $100k sooner (vs later) and my brother said “well we should take $100k at the same time”. I was like…no, thank you. The only other beneficiaries are my deceased brother’s kids at $100k each (flat amount) and I’m NOT going to self deal me any money until they get their share. Fuck that.
We finally (kinda worked out) that my brother’s kids will get some equal percentage wise distribution of their inheritance simultaneously to my sister getting her dumb $100k (so there’s no preferential treatment of beneficiaries) but this isn’t rocket science. And I STILL don’t want any part of a distribution until later (the money is invested and we’d have to liquidate investments to accommodate everything we’re facing).
Trauma dump.
Commando Cunt Queen