CULTURE OR WHITE TRASH-LIKE

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I think loud wailing and carrying on often depends on the religion(s) of those holding the memorial (or those doing the carrying on). Baptists tend to be loud, Lutherans are a more reserved bunch.

Beyond religion, I think it's cultural.

There was a local story recently about a book club getting kicked off a wine train after being asked several times to quiet down. I think there were 11 women, 10 black,1 white.

Reading that story I heard Cracker in the back of my head: "Why are black people so LOUD"?